First, allow me to say that I don't want to hear from you if you are going to judge me after reading this. Seriously, go find something better to do with your time. Mmmkay.
Okay. So there's this dude in one of the labs. He's attractive. Likes brains. We chat, it's fun. Little bit of flirtation. I decide I like him. After discussing the situation with people that actually know a thing or two about dating, I decide to ask if he's seeing anyone.
Keep in mind I am the biggest va-jay-jay of all time when it comes to dating and whatnot, especially if I dont really know the dude. I'm a wuss.
Once my decision is made, I try to go to the lab to talk to dude during the time he is usually there. I get to the 3rd floor and decide to make a pit stop in the lobby. Couldn't quite muster the balls to go down the hall. A girlfriend from class calls to say she saw him by the cafe in tge library. She's a bit of a stalker apparently lol jk. Deciding "bumping" into him by the coffee place is better than creeping on the dude in his lab, I leave and go to get coffee with my friend.
Coffee is purchased and we seem to have list dude. We go outside to sit and chat. She spots dude sitting outside about 25 yards away. Dude walks by us as he leaves, and stops to say "hi". Courtney, without missing a beat says, "like I was saying, I have to run subjects at Dr. Lyle's lab, see you guys later".
I'm stuck here with dude. We chat. And I apparently forget part of the English language and chicken out.
A couple hours later, I end up in my professor's office (yes, my "fun" professor). We discuss some grad school crap, and the convo turns to my current "omg I like a dude and don't know what the hell to do about it" situation. His first question, is this dude a professor or student? Isn't he funny. Ha. Ha. Okay I guess he does have a point. He seemed casual about it, and unaffected. Dude acted supportive and whatnot and seemed to give me a straight read.
So he gives me his input and I end up sending dude an email (which he suggested). After that is done, and we talk about other random junk, he and I see that we both have a bit of free time, and so we get nekked for some fun (I'm sure I sound like a little hooker. But I'm not! )
Hot lab dude ended up writing back, and he is involved with someone (boooo). He did say that doesn't mean we can't do coffee and catch up though. However I find that idea to be odd. So it won't happen.
At the end of the day, I'm not upset, instead I'm proud of myself for 1) actually liking a dude, 2) actually talking about it to other people since doing so makes me vulnerable and I usually avoid this like the plague, and 3) I had the stones to say something to this dude (even though it was via email, baby steps!)
And I'm also happy to have gotten some ass.
So later...
I found out later from a male-friend of mine that getting advice on how to go after a dude I am romantically interested from the dude I am banging will not yield the most reliable results. Apparently, no dude in his right mind will truthfully help a chick he's doing get a boyfriend and end their fun times. Yeah, well I didn't think about that. Thank you to my buddy over in the sandbox, I love ya, and I'm glad you helped knock some sense into my bubble-head!!! :o)
Okay. So there's this dude in one of the labs. He's attractive. Likes brains. We chat, it's fun. Little bit of flirtation. I decide I like him. After discussing the situation with people that actually know a thing or two about dating, I decide to ask if he's seeing anyone.
Keep in mind I am the biggest va-jay-jay of all time when it comes to dating and whatnot, especially if I dont really know the dude. I'm a wuss.
Once my decision is made, I try to go to the lab to talk to dude during the time he is usually there. I get to the 3rd floor and decide to make a pit stop in the lobby. Couldn't quite muster the balls to go down the hall. A girlfriend from class calls to say she saw him by the cafe in tge library. She's a bit of a stalker apparently lol jk. Deciding "bumping" into him by the coffee place is better than creeping on the dude in his lab, I leave and go to get coffee with my friend.
Coffee is purchased and we seem to have list dude. We go outside to sit and chat. She spots dude sitting outside about 25 yards away. Dude walks by us as he leaves, and stops to say "hi". Courtney, without missing a beat says, "like I was saying, I have to run subjects at Dr. Lyle's lab, see you guys later".
I'm stuck here with dude. We chat. And I apparently forget part of the English language and chicken out.
A couple hours later, I end up in my professor's office (yes, my "fun" professor). We discuss some grad school crap, and the convo turns to my current "omg I like a dude and don't know what the hell to do about it" situation. His first question, is this dude a professor or student? Isn't he funny. Ha. Ha. Okay I guess he does have a point. He seemed casual about it, and unaffected. Dude acted supportive and whatnot and seemed to give me a straight read.
So he gives me his input and I end up sending dude an email (which he suggested). After that is done, and we talk about other random junk, he and I see that we both have a bit of free time, and so we get nekked for some fun (I'm sure I sound like a little hooker. But I'm not! )
Hot lab dude ended up writing back, and he is involved with someone (boooo). He did say that doesn't mean we can't do coffee and catch up though. However I find that idea to be odd. So it won't happen.
At the end of the day, I'm not upset, instead I'm proud of myself for 1) actually liking a dude, 2) actually talking about it to other people since doing so makes me vulnerable and I usually avoid this like the plague, and 3) I had the stones to say something to this dude (even though it was via email, baby steps!)
And I'm also happy to have gotten some ass.
So later...
I found out later from a male-friend of mine that getting advice on how to go after a dude I am romantically interested from the dude I am banging will not yield the most reliable results. Apparently, no dude in his right mind will truthfully help a chick he's doing get a boyfriend and end their fun times. Yeah, well I didn't think about that. Thank you to my buddy over in the sandbox, I love ya, and I'm glad you helped knock some sense into my bubble-head!!! :o)
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Some dude things to know:
-Dudes don't share their women, unless they don't care about the women. It's nothing personal. It's just the facts.
-If the dude really likes the woman, he's might not make a move, or want to be moved on. Whether it's right or wrong, nobody likes being a tool, or really cares about one.
-Booty calls are like trips to the bar. You don't live there, or want it to be full time.
Otherwise, men aren't nearly as uncomplicated as some might want to believe. There's a lot of weight placed on loyalty, respect and commitment.
So, be careful and discreet. It always turns out best if you are.
I have to add: I'm not judging. I just know how the heart can be torn to pieces when it comes to relationships and the fringe benefits of the same.
Take care, and have a really good day. :)
Thank you Jess :o)
I'm quite discreet with the prof dude, the only people I have told are not college students and I have not mentioned his name or any specifics about him.
I don't think I will be hurt by him, I've thought about it a lot and in a lot of ways, I think I am using him as a distraction figure. I chased him down after the crap with J and that idea was ended. I wanted to not think about J anymore, but I sure as hell didn't want a relationship, and all of my other booty dudes ended up getting clingy and whatnot. He seemed like a good choice because he is attractive as hell, and given his position of faculty of the university, he can't exactly pursue me. He's attractive as hell, but not the personality type/moral type I am attracted to. It's a safe and convenient choice.
Man I hope I don't sound like a hooker!
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